Topic: Mulva?

[Dasmos]

I need some help.

Here's the story: I took some girl home on Saturday night (8)) and I don't know her name, I've seen her 3 times since then too. I knew it Saturday night but I drunkenly forgot it and I didn't want to seem inconsiderate by asking for it after. I got her number on Saturday, but her name is just listed simply as "GIRL" in my phone.

I tried to ask for her e-mail hoping that it would give some clue, but she doesn't have one apart from her university one which she says she rarely uses.

There haven't been any situations yet that I've really needed to use her name fortunately I just used substitute without it being obvious I don't know her name, like "hey stranger" or "how's it going, babe?". I'd never use the word babe ordinarily, but this is looking like an increasingly hopeless situation and I have no choice.

I've tried introducing her to friends, but she's pretty shy and has only replied with "How's it going? or "Hello." or something.

There's a glimmer of hope though, I recently got my drivers licence renewed and it should arrive in a couple of days. My plan is to make a comment on my picture or something and ask to see hers, thus revealing her name. The thing is I'm seeing her tomorrow night and again on Saturday so hopefully I can make it through those.

Any other advice for finding out the name without being painfully obvious would be appreciated!!

yes, the title is in reference to seinfeld

[EasyCure]

LMAO

I hate when this **** happens. Like you i try to get them to introduce themselves or something not too obvious, but in the end i just wind up asking them up front. Usually i'll pretend to be more drunk than i am and turn it into a silly joke.

[D_Average]

Tell her to look you up on Facebook and befriend you.

[Plugabugz]

"I'm really stupid for asking this, but what is your name again?"

[ShyGuy]

DOLORIS

[vudu]

Is this a joke topic?  ;D

Ask if she had any nicknames as a kid.  (Like Stinky Sally!)

I've tried introducing her to friends, but she's pretty shy and has only replied with "How's it going? or "Hello." or something.

Tell your friend to ask her for her name when she doesn't properly introduce herself.  Or, while hanging out with some other people, excuse yourself for a minute and then have your friend say "I'm sorry, but I'm really bad with names--what's yours again?".  (This way you won't be expected to jump in and give it.)  Of course this only works if your friends aren't huge jerks--if they are they can **** things up for you pretty easily.

There's a glimmer of hope though, I recently got my drivers licence renewed and it should arrive in a couple of days. My plan is to make a comment on my picture or something and ask to see hers, thus revealing her name.

Pray she doesn't go by a nickname, a shortened version of her first name, or her middle name.

[Plugabugz]

One of my friends goes by the nickname of Patricia. Of course, he didn't like it but came to be used to it in time.

[BlackNMild2k1]

`Make a comment about the holograms on the ID and tell her you want to see if hers has the same error as yours. but since you don't have your ID you cant show her the error unless it shows up on hers too.

or a friends once told you how to spot a fake ID, and even though you knows hers is real, you wanna see if the obvious things to look for are still on the ID (like usa usa usa being printed across the top). Obviously since you don't have your ID on you, you can't check yours, so you check hers instead.

or, you can ask to borrow her phone, turn it off, and then call it from your phone so that it goes straight to voice mail. Most people put their name on their voice mail, so you might be able to get it that way too.

Have you been to her house? Ask to see a old yearbook, or look for a piece of mail laying around.

Or you could just trick her into telling it to you. Tell her you have this feature on your phone(that you could never get to work right) where it will say the name of the person calling, and you want her to say her name into the phone so that you can record it and now you will know when its her calling. After you get her name, you can obviously get frustrated with your phone since you can't get it to work and then just say "aww **** it" and put the phone away. But now you have her name.

[EasyCure]

BnM has been in this situation pretty often I'm guessin'

[vudu]

BNM's suggestions are too outlandish and complicated.  Keep things simple.  Trying to get clever will only get one in trouble.

Ask to see a old yearbook

This is a horrible idea.  What is he supposed to do when she gives him her yearbook and he can't look up her picture because he doesn't know her name?!?

[BlackNMild2k1]

BNM's suggestions are too outlandish and complicated.  Keep things simple.  Trying to get clever will only get one in trouble.

Ask to see a old yearbook

This is a horrible idea.  What is he supposed to do when she gives him her yearbook and he can't look up her picture because he doesn't know her name?!?

All the ideas are rather simple if you don't do it nervously. Act casual and work it into the conversation. I've had to do a few of them before. I'm horrible with names. I mostly just try these the same night I met them, and joking about age usually works too.

"How did you even get in the bar? you don't even look 21.... I bet you got a fake ID.... oh yeah? let me see it"
"What!! your 34!!??, no way! I don't believe you, you only look 23... prove it, let me see your ID."


The yearbook one, well you just ask her what her last name is. If you can't find her picture from there, then make up a joke about how she doesn't look anything like she used to , so you must be lookin at the wrong picture. then have her point it out to you because you are in disbelief.

its not that complicated as long as you can pull it off with out being suspicious. you gotta be creative and do it playfully.

And I've also done the one vudu suggested on may occasions. Leave the group and have a friend ask her name. Where most people go wrong is they have the friend try to whisper her name to them right there on the spot when they get back, but instead you should just have your friend ask her a question by calling her by her name first as soon as you get back. There have been too many occasions where it becomes awkward when the name telling was too obvious and now she knows you didn't remember her name.

[nickmitch]

I like the facebook idea.

[BlackNMild2k1]

If she doesn't have an e-mail, do you really think she has a facebook or a myspace?
Don't you need a e-mail to activate one of those or link people to your page (for easy look up)

I don't use either of those services, but I have tried to look people up on them before.

[UncleBob]

Dasmos: What's her phone number?  I'll find out her name for you. ;)

[BlackNMild2k1]

Dasmos: What's her phone number?  I'll find out her name for you. ;)

I forgot about the "Ooops Wrong #!" approach. Have a friend call asking for someone else, then ask who he is talking to, get a name, apologize and hang up.
How could I forget that one?

[UncleBob]

Well, that's a much better idea than I had in mind.... ;)

[ThePerm]

let the truth set you free! "I'm sorry, this is really embarrassing, but I never got your name?"

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[nickmitch]

If she doesn't have an e-mail, do you really think she has a facebook or a myspace?
Don't you need a e-mail to activate one of those or link people to your page (for easy look up)

I don't use either of those services, but I have tried to look people up on them before.

Well, she has a university e-mail.  I assume she's in college.  So, I then assume that she uses facebook like most college students.  However, I see your point.

Alternatively, I would ask her to be less shy around my friends and that she should fully introduce herself the next she meets one.

[vudu]

TAKE HER HOME TO MEET YOUR PARENTS

[Dasmos]

My ID came today! Which is quick seeing as I only got my photo on Monday.

Tell her to look you up on Facebook and befriend you.

Yeah she doesn't have a MyBook/FaceSpace or aything, I have asked.

Of course this only works if your friends aren't huge jerks--if they are they can **** things up for you pretty easily.

Unfortunately I wouldn't trust my friends not to come out and just say "Daniel doesn't know your name, what is it?" They think the situation is funny and exposing me would only be funnier.

Dasmos: What's her phone number?  I'll find out her name for you. ;)

I forgot about the "Ooops Wrong #!" approach. Have a friend call asking for someone else, then ask who he is talking to, get a name, apologize and hang up.
How could I forget that one?

Yeah I have thought about this, if my ID plan doesn't work out I'll probably try this.

let the truth set you free! "I'm sorry, this is really embarrassing, but I never got your name?"

Maybe if I hadn't seen her since Saturday, but I spent Sunday with her over lunch and saw her again on Monday and Wednesday. Also it doesn't help that we've done deed on a number of those meetings. Also the thing is I did get her name, but I forgot it.

[Stogi]

NEVER ASK HER FOR HER NAME.That'd be really stupid.

Two, always use a third party to find out her name. Any friend would gladly ask her for her name. If you are meeting her by yourself, then move on to point three.

Three. There shouldn't be a reason to use her name in this situation anyway.

[UncleBob]

Dasmos: What's her phone number?  I'll find out her name for you. ;)

Yeah I have thought about this, if my ID plan doesn't work out I'll probably try this.

Why wait?  Just gimme her number.  I'll get her name. She'll never expect a crazy call from someone in the states... ;)

[Stogi]

I agree. Let UncleBob do it.....that is...if you trust him.

[UncleBob]

Who wouldn't trust me? :)

[UncleBob]

Uh, ahem, this is Dr. Richard Cook of the International Drainage Commission.  It's an emergency.
We understand some drains in your area have been malfunctioning, sucking in people and...whatnot.  We need you to check your sinks and toilets and tell us which way the water is going, and please - stand clear.  And for the record, what is your name?