Do not try to bend the spoon, that's impossible. instead only try to realise the truth.
what truth ?
there is no spoon
*NEO BENDS SPOON*
you will then see that it is not the spoon that bends ... it is only yourself.
Is there a spoon in the matrix realoaded? Is the matrix realoaded real? How do you define real?
If your talking about, what you can see, smell, feel and touch ... then real is simply electrical signals
interpreted by your brain.