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Originally posted by: GoldenPhoenix
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Thing about it is, you've solidified your position in her mind as a friend, which is damn near impossible to escape, and while she may -seem- interested, she's more or less using you as a crutch. Now, that's not to say that she's doing it on purpose, hell, women are built that way.
Sounds pretty sexist to me, and for your tips if any guy was rude to me that would be it, and I know I'm not the only one. Everyone is different and while there may be a tendency DO NOT generalize every guy or girl acting the same way. Also you want some advice, be yourself and don't be phony. If things are going to work you need be yourself, because you can't put up a fake facade forever if things continue. If after spending time with each other, and things don't click or she isn't impressed by your real self then I say move on. Personally I prefer things to go really slowly, I want to get to know the person well before I would even consider anything more, and that is why I like going to dinner or something where we can just talk. I'm sorry but movies don't cut it, especially in the beginning because you aren't getting to know each other and your attention is focused towards the movie.
Did I not exercise that to him at the end of my post? My attitude is an extension of my personality, and one that I left dormant due to society's ideas of how women should be treated. Don't get me wrong, I don't hit or verbally abuse anybody, but I'll be damned if I put anybody on a pedestal, especially just because of their gender.
As for what you quoted me on, I stand by that and I will continue to. Why? Because I have a lot of experience dating women, experience that you don't have, and I can view the gender from a non-biased perspective. Believe it or not, I've done a lot of research on this subject, and I recomend you do some aswell. If you'd like, I could write up a short list of books that you could pick up and read in your spare time, and I guarantee that none of them are " sexist ".
Another thing, when I spoke of women being " built that way ", I was talking about how they react on a subconscious level when faced with this sort of situation, because that reaction generally becomes what they feel.