I had PM's turned off? That's strange...
1. Both stores are good. I bought a Dreamcast light-gun from Lik Sang a couple years ago, and I received it in about 2 weeks, considering I only paid for standard Air Mail and that it was shipped across the Pacific to the U.S. As for Play-Asia, I ordered the Famitsu Wave DVD issue w/ the Biohazard4 trailer, it shipped the day before the street date and I received it after 1.5 weeks via Air Mail again to the States. Upgrading to a courier service would've made shipments faster.
2. Sorry, I don't know about Freeloader compatibility here. I'm assuming someone makes lists online of what works and what doesn't.