'Sweetums'? That's not one of mine. I use dear, darling and love with most any woman just like I use bro and bra when talking to guys or tiger for my middle school boys back when I was a youth leader. My friends can attest to this. They can also attest that I called a girl I had just met toots. I killed her in Halo and said 'you just got pownd, toots'. But sweetums is not part of my typical verbose.