screamatorium--I think you're still missing the point about this. As oohhboy has stated, the online option either needs to make money or be little to no cost for Nintendo. You may not agree with that logic--you obviously enjoy online--but for the rest of us we are fine with the decision. Nintendo has a lot issues to take care of to ensure future health. Online gaming probably rates towards the bottom for the various reasons discussed.
You need to keep in mind that you are in a niche market. While that market is very vocal, it is too small to pay lip service too. All of the game companies are after the mainstream dollar, and right now the mainstream is far from sold. Shoot, I heard a poll a couple weeks back that said something along the lines of that 50-60 percent of people in the states are not online and are just happy with that. This presents a long term problem to the console makers because in the end money needs to be spent to support these features. You can't support it for an awfully long time without the numbers being there. I rather Nintendo stick around for a long time by avoiding foolish ventures for the sake of people "thinking" that said feature will undoubtly be the furture. Online might be the natural technical progression, but market trends are far more important.
Something else needs to be kept in mind. Nintendo kind of knows what they are talking about. If you have followed Nintendo's past decisions, you realized that they tried online types of programs a couple of times. And each time those plans were killed off because there was not enough interests to justify support. Nintendo is weary because past experince tells them that people do not want to pay for online.
Online is a cool function, and I do not knock the other companies for trying to push for it. But don't assume that Nintendo is being foolish and greedy for not being aggressive on this front. I'm sure that for the most part, they want to do it, but past experince informs their cautiousness. Nintendo protects their bottom line because they do not want to answer to anyone else, which I think is admirable. You may not agree with that, but time will ultimately tell if Nintendo is being truly foolish or if they are right that now is not the time. Right now, however, I'd rather that Nintendo concentrate on the things that will stop the bleeding of their marketshare--things like brand recognition and learning how to sell their games and image in age of extreme hype.