Life is tough man. I certainly don't know real depression but the last 2 years have been really tough for me.
Thank goodness I have a great wife and daughter or man I don't know where I'd be right now. When I was 18 I had all these big dreams! I just started training in Wushu and I just started as Spider-Man. I was on top of the world! Still not much has happened in between now and then that I feel really propelled me forward. I'm going to start name dropping so bare with me. Wu Bin, Jet Li's only teacher was so proud of me, a foreigner, for teaching high quality wushu and sticking to a system that didn't rely on tricks. He used to stand in the balcony of my school and just looked so proud. Jacky Chan walks in say's similar things before we all go work on Rush Hour 3. I taught the son of a man named Scott Ma, he was in and choreographed Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon. He would leave work early to come and watch me teach, he was always telling me what a great a teacher I was and one day I would do these great things. You know just people filling my head with grand ideas.
I trained with Marc Dacascos often before he left and got a little bigger. Used to train with Ray Park, Darth Maul, before Heroes and GI Joe took him away. Michael J White was always in and out the door talking about this big project he wanted to do and I was promised a trip to china to go work on it. I wasn't good enough to go and it turned out to be crap anyway.
My personal students, Tiphany Pham, is Piper on that Nick show Bucket and Skinner's Epic Adventures. I watched her grow her skill and career right before my eyes. Another student of mine Brian F, his wife is Nancy Gribble, he is in every commercial known to man, and was recently the Lawyer who ate poison frogs in Grimm. I mean it goes on and on like that.
I watch these people, some of which are good friends of mine and I feel like I can never be as successful as they are. It's very depressing to me. Then when I finally get a bone thrown to me and I get hired for what ever movie, commercial or what ever, I ultimately get cut. I swear it's a curse. Now when I get a job I don't even like to talk about it to my wife because I feel like even if I shoot something when it actually airs i'll be left on the editing room floor.
Then 2 years ago we lost our wushu school/production studio. I was the right hand man to my head coach and he moved back to china for a while. We always knew I would inherit the school, but not like that. I rented out of raggedy little places, until I found a place decent enough. But it's so hard to gain new students with out a place of my own. They walk in and see some multi racial black guy and wonder if I'm really the teacher. They don't see flipping and tumbling and assume what I teach isn't authentic. All the while my guys who finally earned their black belts after about 5 years just got too busy with school/work/life and are gone. It was like $500 a month just gone cause they finally passed that mile stone. They had only just joined the club to really try and make it to greatness and then just gone. I love my intermediate guys and my beginners, but I love my advanced guys so much and it's like a dagger through my heart to just have them gone.
Then last week I learned they are auctioning off everything in my old school. Pictures, weapons, all things sentimental, what ever it was to be sold off.
http://www.fleetwoodauctioncenter.com/cgi-bin/mnlist.cgi?fleetwood5/category/ALLIt took me 3 days to get things out of there and every time I walked in the building I just wanted to cry and wushu chop every competitor and rival that showed up. There were people in there just being so disrespectful to my personal history it was rage inducing. Still, I felt if anyone got things out of there I was glad it was more wushu people. Look at 633 and you can see what the inside of the school looked like. It took us so long to build it up that way.
In the last 3 years I do my taxes and just notice with each year I make less and less. It's extremely depressing and sometimes I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thankfully though my family, friends and students are super supportive and I know i'll climb out of this hole eventually. In the middle of it all I know how hard it is.
Add into that a chronic injury that keeps me from moving to hard or too fast and I just feel like i'm failing at life.
Oblivion I don't know what to tell you personally. I'm no doctor and my depression certainly doesn't go that far. But I will tell you this, with women, or men, who ever you decide to date and ultimately break up with, there will be another some day. I remember how hard it was to take being dumped when I was like 19. Man I thought i'd never get it over it. Makes you feel sick to your stomach just thinking about her right? Yeah, but it will pass. Just trust me. And tomorrow darn it, you never know who you're gonna meet. I'm dead serious, man there is always tomorrow.
I was never the type that was as angry as you would come off as sometimes here on the forums, but I remember just kind of taking a personal philosophy of "well, it always works out in the end." I swear that has calmed me down a million times over, cause when I really thought about everything that stressed me way the heck out, by the time it was all said and done, everything was just fine and I lived on.
Thinking about it now. I realized I don't listen to the music that I used to listen to when I was upset. Be right back, if your a child at heart like me, maybe these will help.