I'm not defending anyone's actions, but this recent thread unraveling has become very dangerous.
I really hope it takes down those at the the bottom to top that deserve it, but it also means that women and men can all use any sort of unwanted advance regardless of how relevant it may have been in context of the situation at hand, as a tool to ruin anyone's present and future with the mere mention of the incident from their perspective.
and by the way #metoo
But I've seen serial sluts (men and women) claim foul play the next morning when they were the aggressors in the situation. I've seen pretty tepid people do the same when in my opinion they were the initiator or were atleast engaged in the flirtation at one point, regardless of how much they ended up drinking in the end, which led to them allowing the other party to believe that everything was not only consensual but invited and very welcome.... up until I guess, the point when it wasn't.
I believe no means no, and yes, some of the lesser stories I've read perhaps do cross a line, but flirters gonna flirt and shooters gotta shoot. A lot of things can be taken a lot ways, but without knowing the full context of the situation, I can say from experience (of being a witness), that not all is as it's told.