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frustration/depressed question
manunited4eva22:
I have holes in my wall from anger. Yeah.
StrikerObi:
When I'm upset or depressed I usually try to go to a punk rock show. I've found that, for me at least, nothing is better therapy than getting into the pit and working out all those emotions.
Praxius:
I used to listen to all that stuff when I felt depressed, but I found that those are the reasons why I stay depressed. And not to rag on anybody in here, but the thought of depression as a sickness, or a disease is foolish. It's like everyday, everything is a sickness or a disease. Some say it's a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes people to become depressed, well you know what? Being happy is also a chemical imbalance too.
The thing is, you don't need a drug to help with your depression, and you don't need to listen to depressing music to help you either, because it just doesn't work, because you just end up constantly dwelling of your problems and you just get stuck into this cycle that you can't get out of until you fall asleep or somthing, then you wake up and you are still the same.
The first thing you gotta realise is that whatever is happening in your life, it is only temporary and things will get better. The second thing you have to do is realise that yeah, ok things will get better, but just thinking about it usually doesn't make it happen. You have to make it happen. And if you want to get out of the situation that you are currently in and you want to stop feeling like Crap, then you have to do it on your own. Do what you think is right. You can have your firend's telling you all kinds of things and giving you advice on what to do, but in the end, it's what you do with your life that will change things.
Sometimes when you are down in the dumps, you have to go even deeper before you can get back up, but I learned that if you do that, and you face the crappiest choices in your life and you make it out of it, by yourself, then there is nothing you can't do and all the problems in your life in the future seem not so bad after all.
Did you not get into the college you wanted? Did you break up with your GF, because she was cheating on you? are your parents getting a divorce? Are they forcing you to take some college/university course that you hate, or you'll be kicked out of the house? Did you lose your job? I have had these things and more happen in my life, but you know what? It's not as bad as it sounds, because I know I got everything I need to get out of it and do with my life as I see fit.
I was forced into a course I didn't want, and I failed it, and then I was back in a dead end, part-time, minimum wage job again, and I ended up owing more money for loans on top of that. Also my mom was divorcing my dad and I had to put up with my dad flipping out and getting drunk every night, and breaking down that his whole world was over, and my girlfriend cheated on me and al my friends moved away. but I didn't let that stop me, because I figured that if I don't do somthing about my current situation, that it was going to eat the hell out of me and I didn't know what I was going to do with myself then. So I went back to another course, for Animation. I applied by my self, I got all the loans by my self, I live by my self, I took the course, I passed, I graduated, and althoguh I didn't get a job in my feild of training right away and was back in a dead end job, i didn't let that get me down, because I made it this far, and I'll be damned if I'll get stopped here. I was barly making ends meet and my parents were just saying that I should get a second job to pay things off, but if I did that then i wouldn't have enough time in the day to find what I was trained for and that I wanted to do with my life, so I stuck to the path I chose, and guess what. I am still living on my own, but not for long, because i am now working in a Photography Studio as a Graphic Designer, and next month my new girlfirned who i love a lot and have more in common than anyone I did before, is moving in with me, who also was having a crappy time with her course and was going to move back home and live with her mom, and work at a dead end job, because she was going to fail, cuz she missed a lot of time at school, due to her uncle's tragic death and she missed two weeks.
But she worked her ass off, and now she is going to graduate, and she is on her work term, and tomrrow she has an interview for an Office Administration position.
Things in life get shi**y, but listening to music and dwelling in the crappy situation is not the solution. You gotta face your problems, and just say "Fok it" and figure out how to get out of your current situation. Now of course you may not be able to get out of it right away, like myself, and had to put up with going to some crappy course you didn't want to go into for a few months, etc. But in the end, you'll see that it was worth it.
Uglydot:
I listen to irish rock when I am depressed usually. Occasionally I break out some slow music such as placebo or some 90s alt band. Irish rock usually picks me up, combine that with working on my linux box and I am cheered right up! Slack 9 is magical.
deminisma:
Skinny Puppy - VivisectVI
Uglydot: Shouldn't you ONLY have a linux box? That's the way to go!